Summer Social Media Break
“The truth is, rarely can a response make something better — what makes something better is connection.” -Brené Brown
I want to share my experiences with fleshy humans.
My canoeing cohorts and beach-time buddies.
To shift my focus from the growth of 'Denby The Avatar' to 'Denby The Person'.
There is a level of realness and connection that my life started to lack. It wasn't a sudden shift, but something that evolved over time since I first signed on to Facebook over ten years ago.
Since then, I have thought about leaving the platform a bunch of times. But with years living abroad, social media had become a handy tool to stay connected with friends I have made around the world. But is this actually a disadvantage? Rarely do I actually actively engage with these friends anymore. A 'like' here and there a passive 'happy birthday' when a notification pops up. But if I wasn't prompted by convenience and had to remember or physically mark significant events on my paper calendar I would have to actually engage in a genuine and unsolicited connection. I can see what they are up to everyday without, in reality, having to ask them.
I do love the ability to see what my greater community is doing on the regular but I miss the actual act of engagement. Or even the lack of engagement. A period of disconnect where one actually starts to care what their community is up to again. When was the last time you called a friend up and asked what is going on in their lives without having any clue that they just read an article about "Cat Appreciation Day" or that they "checked-in" to the same restaurant three times on their vacation? I want to hear them tell me these things and I want to be motivated to ask questions and inquire.
So in case you've been wondering what I've been up to here's the low-down:
- A lot of time on the water and on the beach. I am fortunate enough to have friends with enough canoes to go around so we have been cruising around Gonzales Bay and taking dives into Thetis Lake.
- Actively researching what food means to me. I have made some drastic shifts in my perception and outlook of the wellness industry and where my priorities lie. Read more about this in my 'Food Manifesto' post.
- I have been doing this program for a couple of months now and I am totally pumped (pun intended) on the strength results I am getting. It's a ridiculously good workout.
- I have been visiting and connecting with friends from near and far. Not just my homies in my neighbourhood, but old friends from far-off places, and some just across the Strait of Juan de Fuca (this friend happens to have a recent podcast about taking a social media break. If you haven't heard it, check it out: Listen here.
- This app has also been fun. I've been using it to learn Spanish --actually, I've mostly been just been listening to this song on repeat.
Have you taken a break from the socials too? Maybe just thinking about it? Hit me up in a message or in the comments! I want to know what's going on in your life.